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Mothering Refreshment Sunday (Lent 4) 11th March 2018
Teal Book Page 166

Mothering Sunday is a good time to consider an important family matter that too often remains unmentioned: I have been preoccupied recently with more than one family where a deceased relative has failed to leave clear instructions for their funeral or even make a will! This is vital for the wellbeing of loved ones especially in the event of an unexpected death. Even in the best of families, at a time of sadness, it is very difficult for siblings who are affected by grief, to make rational decisions or come to agreement sometimes even over trivial things.

I remember years ago an Anglican Priest, who was a man of considerable stature. He had quietly retired and moved away from the diocese. He was beginning to make a new home in a part of the country where he was previously unknown. He must have been preoccupied with organising his new life when suddenly, quite unexpectedly, he died. He had not left clear instructions and had not considered who might take responsibility for his affairs. No doubt it was one of the things he intended to get around to when he was more settled. Being unmarried, he had no children and no immediate family. The only relative lived elsewhere and was uncertain how to proceed. From a distance, for convenience, a simple funeral was arranged at the local crematorium. Very few people attended a ceremony that was without “Sacred rites”. It was some time later that news of his death began to circulate within his former diocese and among long-standing friends who held him in the highest esteem. He had been a scholar of considerable reputation and a deeply spiritual priest.

Those who knew and loved him best were mortified! His passing had been so pitifully overlooked. A great requiem was subsequently arranged but the sense of sadness and collective pastoral failure was irretrievable. Now if that was the effect on a whole diocese think how it might affect a family. After that a “three-line whip” was put on all clergy to leave clear instructions with the diocese irrespective of their age or situation. That should be a rule for everybody! Does your family know what you would like arranged for a funeral? Do they know how to legitimately draw money from your funds for immediate sundry expenses? Have you left clear instructions in a place where this can be found?

A whole new dimension to this dilemma is computers: Lots of us store important, letters and financial information on our computers. Of course, we are meticulous to keep such information securely protected. So what happens if vital information about your personal estate is stored on a computer to which nobody has the password? All of these matters are very live issues of which I have become personally aware in recent weeks. With this in mind it is worth mentioning “Free Wills Month”. Certain charities and agencies are offering a free will writing service. Simply look on line for “Free Wills Month”. Even if you don’t use a computer and you do have a valid up to date will, write the letter that you have always intended and leave it in a place that will be obvious to your family or friends. It makes life much easier for those who love you.

Meanwhile, cheer up it will soon be Easter!

God Bless Fr Kevin

Clocks go forward one hour the night before Palm Sunday (March 25th i.e. the evening of March 24th) Mick Shepherd losing sleep again!

Fr Eric RiP 

Fr Eric’s Funeral is at John Fisher Church Kidbrook on 12.noon Friday 23rd there will also be a Vigil Mass at 6.30on Thursday 22nd

Thankyou for your Offertory Sunday 4th 

OLSS £675 Cafod £34
St J’s Feb 4th £333 Cafod £302

Baptism Preparation 

If you are looking for the Baptism of a child NB. at either church, the next preparation evening will be Wednesday 14th March at OLSS at 7.00pm. No need to book. Bring your child if necessary

For Your Prayers 

Peter is now at home. Sheila is resident at Morden College. Anne is now at Eltham Community Hospital. Jose is now at home. Sr Jane OSU recuperating at Westgate

Anniversaries May they Rest in Peace 

Bridget H, Sr Brendan OSU, John F, Philip E, Ji G, Patrick R, Ann P, Leonard S, Mary F, Christine C, Teresa H

Maggie has prepared celebration Hampers to be raffled in time for Easter at OLSS! 

Stations of the Cross 

Every Friday during Lent after Mass 10.00am OLSS & 7.00pm at St Joseph

Parish Finances 

I am indebted to Andrew & Tom at OLSS (who stepped into the shoes of Peter & Frances after their move last year to Eastbourne) for their care in the weekly counting and banking of parish monies. (No less also to Lee at St Joseph’s) Tom & Andrew will make a short presentation at OLSS this week before the turn of the financial year.

See financial details in the newsletter in the church.


Over 80% of the Direct Debits and Legacy payments are Gift Aided, but our weekly donations are below 40%. We receive c.£500 a week that is not gift Aided and if we can get half of this Gift Aided, HMRC will pay us an additional £3,500 at no extra cost to the parishioner or the parish. At the back of the church are forms to use to avail of Gift Aid. You can do it by Direct Debit (monthly preferably) or by weekly envelope.
Lets start tax year 2018/19. Tom & Andrew


MASS CALENDAR FOR 9th – 18th MARCH 2018 

Saturday 10th Mass OLSS 6.00 Int: Parish & People

Sunday 11th Mass OLSS 9.00 Int: Mrs Carmelita (RiP 1st Ann)

Mothering Sunday Mass St J’s 10.00 Int: Mrs S. G-P (RiP 5th Ann)

(4thLent Refreshment) Mass OLSS 11.00 Int: Sean D (RiP)

Monday 12th No Mass on Monday

Tuesday 13th Mass OLSS 9.30 Int: Debra M (WB)

Mass St J’s 7.00 Int: Rada (RiP)

Wednesday 14th Mass OLSS 9.30 Int: Ronald A (RiP) & Doris (WB)

Thursday 15th Mass OLSS 9.30 Int: Julia & Teresa (WB)

Mass St J’s 11.00 Int: Anne C (GW) Tuesday in Holy Week

Friday 16th Mass OLSS 9.30 Int:

St Patrick 17th Mass OLSS 6.00 Int: Alan L (Month Mind RiP) Extended Solemn Mass

Sunday 18th Mass OLSS 9.00 Int: 7.00pm St Joseph

Fifth Sunday of Lent Mass St J’s 10.00 Int: Peter O (br of Mary RiP)

Mass OLSS 11.00 Int: Parish & People



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